Dealing With Other People's Trauma, Tuesday 9/9
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“Welcome back,” Stark said once it seemed like everyone that was coming to the classroom today had arrived. “I hope none of you had too hard a time last week with all of the island nonsense. Fandom weirdness. Whatever you might want to call it. There certainly was a lot of it. Much more than usual in such a short time.”
“Turning into something, or someone, is somewhat common here. It was not where I’m from. The first time I wasn’t myself was…very strange.”
This was a huge understatement. The first time Stark was shaped unlike himself he'd spent a lot of time yelling and otherwise freaking out. If Stark had found himself pony-shaped last week he would have screamed loud enough for the whole island to hear, probably. There would have been so much stomping of hooves.
“I’m still not used to it, not really, but it may get easier for you all with time. I yell a lot less than i did the first time. First few times.”
“Sometimes I’m a koala. Which makes no sense but many things in this universe and others make no sense. Eventually, maybe, you can come to accept that. Not always. Not for everyone. That’s something to keep in mind, when dealing with others. You may grow accustomed to things. You may accept things. Not everyone will do both, or either. Just because something is fine for you doesn’t mean it’s fine for someone else. And just because something is fine for someone else does not necessarily mean it will be fine for you.”
Stark paused then and looked around. “If I ever talk of things that upset you, that you don't want to deal with, please tell me. I don't want to upset any of you. The whole idea of all of this is to not upset others needlessly if it can be avoided. Some things can't be.”
He'd lost his train of thought, a bit, and was trying to find it once more.
“So…I suppose that's a good topic? Things like the island changing you, or someone else. How do you deal with that? How do you help others deal with it or at least not make it worse? Some of you may have had your first experience with this last week…did you learn anything from that? Would you do anything differently now? Things like that. That seems like a reasonable thing to discuss. Were you warned about things like transformations before you first experienced them or was it a shock? Would you warn someone else now?”
“Turning into something, or someone, is somewhat common here. It was not where I’m from. The first time I wasn’t myself was…very strange.”
This was a huge understatement. The first time Stark was shaped unlike himself he'd spent a lot of time yelling and otherwise freaking out. If Stark had found himself pony-shaped last week he would have screamed loud enough for the whole island to hear, probably. There would have been so much stomping of hooves.
“I’m still not used to it, not really, but it may get easier for you all with time. I yell a lot less than i did the first time. First few times.”
“Sometimes I’m a koala. Which makes no sense but many things in this universe and others make no sense. Eventually, maybe, you can come to accept that. Not always. Not for everyone. That’s something to keep in mind, when dealing with others. You may grow accustomed to things. You may accept things. Not everyone will do both, or either. Just because something is fine for you doesn’t mean it’s fine for someone else. And just because something is fine for someone else does not necessarily mean it will be fine for you.”
Stark paused then and looked around. “If I ever talk of things that upset you, that you don't want to deal with, please tell me. I don't want to upset any of you. The whole idea of all of this is to not upset others needlessly if it can be avoided. Some things can't be.”
He'd lost his train of thought, a bit, and was trying to find it once more.
“So…I suppose that's a good topic? Things like the island changing you, or someone else. How do you deal with that? How do you help others deal with it or at least not make it worse? Some of you may have had your first experience with this last week…did you learn anything from that? Would you do anything differently now? Things like that. That seems like a reasonable thing to discuss. Were you warned about things like transformations before you first experienced them or was it a shock? Would you warn someone else now?”